Topical Blog Post: Childless

Childless

“You don’t wanna have kids?! Do you wanna grow up alone? What if you’re old and you die, don’t you wanna have someone to take care of you?!” exclaimed my coworker Beatrice.

Oprah has not had a child. I do not think she is lonely or incomplete.

I never correlated not having kids with a life of loneliness and despair, and without marriage. Even when I pass, I still never figured my life would have been lonely or miserable because I did not have kids.

Obviously, I do not want to have kids in the future. It is not solely because I’m not good with kids. I just do not see my life as a parent. I do not think I have it in my heart and soul to be a mother a child. Children are a huge responsibility, and I do not think I am ready for that…ever.

My mother always told me, “You’ll grow out of it. You’re just really young right now to even think of having children.”

Maybe she’s right. Maybe I am just too young to even think about having children, and that is why I feel I will never want any. Maybe I will “come around”. However, I really do not think that is the case.

When I was younger, I never liked playing “the Mom,” who cooked, cleaned, and tended to her children all day. I know mothers today do not even do that now, but I still do not see my life as “the Mom”.

I know, especially right now, I am not mature enough to be a parent. I would not want to have children (or a child) unless I was ready. My own parents instilled a great sense of family in me, and I do not think that it is something I can give to my own offspring.

I commend all parents for being able to care for a child. I see parenting has the toughest job in the world. It is something so many people around the world struggle with. I acknowledge that.

I do want to achieve a lot of things in my life, but having a family is not one of them, and that should be okay. I plan to live a life with my husband, and that is it. I do not think I’ll end up miserable and alone as people say.